Rules

Rules on Consent

Always ask for explicit consent before touching or engaging with someone. This means using clear and direct language, such as "May I hug you?" or "Can I touch your shoulder?"

• Make sure that both of you can make eye contact and that the person is giving you their full attention. This will help you to ensure that they have understood your request and that their response is genuine.

• Only proceed if the answer is an enthusiastic "yes" that is given freely. If the person seems unsure or uncomfortable, even if they say "yes," it is best to err on the side of caution and not proceed.

• Remember that consent is ongoing. Just because someone has consented to something once does not mean that they have consented to it again. It is important to check in with the person regularly to make sure that they are still comfortable and that they want to continue.

Here are some examples of how you could ask for consent.

Ask for consent before any sexual activity, including kissing, cuddling, and touching. Be specific about what you want to do. For example,instead of saying "Do you want to play?", say "Can I kiss you?" or "Can I touch your arm?"

• Respect the person's answer, even if it's no. No means no, even if they said yes before. If they change their mind, stop what you're doing.

• Look for verbal and nonverbal cues that the person is consenting. Are they making eye contact? Smiling? Leaning in? If they seem hesitant or uncomfortable, ask them if they're okay.

• Enthusiastic consent is the only kind of consent that matters. If the person doesn't say yes with a clear voice and without hesitation, don't proceed.

Here are some other examples of how to ask for consent:

• "Can I kiss you?"

• "Can I touch your arm?"

• "Are you comfortable with me doing this?"

• "Do you want to have sex?"

• "What are you in the mood for?"

Here are some examples of non-verbal cues that someone might be giving off to indicate they are not consenting:

• Avoiding eye contact

• Backing away

• Frowning

• Crossing their arms

• Saying "no" in a soft voice

• Freezing

If you see any of these cues, stop what you're doing and ask the person if they're okay.

Remember, consent is ongoing. Just because someone said yes to one thing doesn't mean they consent to everything. Check in with your partner regularly to make sure they're still comfortable.

Rules on Touch and intimacy

Social Interaction

• Be mindful of your body language and avoid staring or making suggestive gestures at people who are not interested in you.

• Respect personal space and don't get too close to someone unless they have invited you to.

• Use clear and concise language when asking for consent.

• Be patient and understanding. Not everyone will be open to playing with you, and that's okay.

Play Party Etiquette

• Treat a play party like any other social event.

• Be respectful of other people's boundaries and ask for permission before touching them or their belongings.

• Use safe play practices and avoid engaging in activities that could cause harm to yourself or others.

• Be aware of your surroundings and take breaks when needed.

• Communicate your needs and desires clearly to your partners.

• If you feel uncomfortable at any time, please don't hesitate to leave or ask for help from a staff member.

• We do not allow solo individuals to enter our playrooms, if you would like to be a part of someone’s play to watch , then you must gain consent prior to entering and enter with them. At no point should a solo guest interact with other guests in the play room.

Rules on Dungeon and Play Scenes

Standard Rules - These rules are non negotiable and the Dungeon Monitors decision is final.

• Scenes are not to be interrupted by any guest whatsoever under no circumstances. If you have a concern please raise it with the Dungeon Monitor.

• Respect personal space and remember floggers and whips have reach.

• Play scenes are very specific to the individual and are negotiated prior to commencing . Sometimes they may look extreme, however they have been discussed and negotiated beforehand with those involved. Observers must understand that whilst the activity might not suit them, it is between those involved only.

• Give people space after a scene, this is a very intimate and precious time. Do not interrupt.

Dungeon Play etiquette

• Remember some guests are submissive when in our safe space, do not push them into agreeing your involvement in their play. If it’s not an enthusiastic Yes, it’s a NO!

• Wipe down all equipment and toys after use.

• Use safe play practices and avoid engaging in activities that could cause harm to yourself or others.

• Be aware of your surroundings and take breaks when needed.

• Communicate your needs and desires clearly to your partners.

• If you feel uncomfortable at any time, please don't hesitate to leave or ask for help from a staff member.

If a concern is raised or noted, it is a non negotiable, any attempt to justify your actions will not be taken positively. Our Dungeon Monitor is experienced and knowledgeable and we take our guests feelings very seriously. If you are given a warning or feedback and would like to discuss it further, do so after the event.